There might have been several ways you try to reshape love towards given it a sound and beautiful description. But the fact remains this " there is only one way you can walk in love, and that is loving others as you do to yourself" Doing this has no alternative. It sounds funny right, and not really possible. Now let's think of this, if you can't bear the pain you caused to yourself, will you feel comfortable passing it to others? If we try to to analyze our reactions before transferring to others, it will go a long way enhancing our love life.